When?

“The great Western disease is, ‘I’ll be happy when… When I get the money. When I get a BMW. When I get this job.’ Well, the reality is, you never get to when. The only way to find happiness is to understand that happiness is not out there. It’s in here. And happiness is not … Read more

Work hard, play hard!

“Please… tell me who you are and what you want. And if you think those are simple questions, keep in mind that most people live their entire lives without arriving at an answer.” — Gary Zukav Recovery is about growing up and living life on purpose. In order to live a life of purpose we … Read more

The price tag

“Let us remember that, as much has been given us, much will be expected from us, and that true homage comes from the heart as well as from the lips, and shows itself in deeds.”  Theodore Roosevelt Recovery does come with a price tag, not only the price of admission, i.e. getting sober you must … Read more

Sticks and stones…

Sticks and stones may break your bones but words can never harm you! — My Mother. Sure we all have been offered this advice and as much as it sounds like a logical and sound principle it is not true in reality. Words have hurt more addicts than anyone would want to admit. We have … Read more

Build up or tear down…

“Most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself”. — David Martyn Lloyd-Jones. Of course we all talk to ourselves on a daily basis. We are thinkers and self talkers. Often we talk to ourselves in the negative, “aaa look at you, you … Read more

Never Regret…

Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience. Victoria Holt Regret is a terrible thing we all make mistakes if we learn from the mistakes we move on. If we don’t we live in regret. That is correct, many people think that learning from mistakes means that we never make the … Read more

Stress, fear and worry…

You may have fooled yourself into thinking that it’s useful or unavoidable, but it’s not. — Seth Godin I recently read Seth’s blog on worry and I realized that we all worry whether we are addicts, alcoholics or simply earthlings! Worry is expressed in many ways, for some of us it comes in the form of … Read more

Hope beyond hope!

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when dreams come true there is life and joy.  Proverb I have been speaking to many rehabilitation programs lately, especially those centers on the West Coast, particularly California. I have been fortunate to have been able to speak with Chad Carlsen the co-founder and Executive Director of Hope … Read more