February 28, 1985 early in the morning i was awakened with the news, I’m having contractions we need to go to the hospital. So off we went to the Cortland, NY hospital, I was still in college. I had been drinking on and off after nearly three years with out a drink. I remember the … Read more
According to the National Research Council & Institute of Medicine; Mental, Emotional, and Behavioral (MEB) health is the overall psychological well-being of individuals and includes the presence of positive characteristics, such as the abilities to deal with stress, demonstrate flexibility under changing environments, and recover from adverse situations. This is the basis of recovery; recognizing that … Read more
Watch what direction the feet point, when the mouth stops. You want a consistency between mouth and movement. –James Dignam I am helping a fellow out with his recovery journey. I suggested he attend a mens meeting at Crossroads which is a clubhouse in Delray Beach, Florida. I brought him a few times to the … Read more
One of the primary rules of navigation is this: What’s under the surface should carry more weight than what’s above the surface if the ship is going to make it through storms without capsizing. That’s exactly how it is with integrity. What’s under the surface had better be greater than what you’re showing to the … Read more
“Make an effort to not blame anybody or anything – and you’re rewarded with much happiness!” —Arne Klingenberg The “Blame Game” is a dilemma we all face. When something goes wrong in our lives we always want to look at “Why” it failed. If we do not do so we will not change our strategy. … Read more
Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance. — Marie Curie Last night I answered a call from a friend, I will call him “B”, he said he was in NY and in need of help. I introduced him to another friend in NY who helped. This morning … Read more
“There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments, and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance—that principle is contempt prior to investigation.” – Herbert Spencer I was not always an open minded individual. I had an opinion on everything whether I knew anything … Read more
“One word frees us from the weight and pain of life; that word is love.” –Sophocles Recently, I met with a person that was sharing about his divorce and he said “my wife didn’t know how to love me”. I was reading a short paper on love and fear just a few days prior. The … Read more
“I tell my wife, ‘Don’t look at that event, wipe it clean and look at hope.” — Alan Kiceina Many of us in recovery or preparing to recover have met with our share of adversity. We tend to see adversity as if we are victims of it. Recently I read a story of a young lady … Read more