When things go wrong and they do, we have a tendency to look for the why.  Often the why points to other people, places or conditions, rarely if ever back at ourselves.  Not only does it take us off the hook but it in some way feels better to blame someone else.  To rant and rave about another human being and their ineptitude or stupidity that effected the outcome for us feels good or at best relieving.  Can you spell victim?  Yes the victim mentality is at work and winning!

The challenge with that line of thinking is you are probably wrong!  More importantly at some level you actually know it and you roll with it anyway.  There is no doubt however that this line of thinking is unhealthy to say the least.  That is due in part that the role is self limiting even self destructive and pushes us into a self perpetuating negative loop.

The loop goes like this, things don’t go your way, you get angry and blame someone else.  But deep down you know that it is really your own fault, so you feel guilty, ashamed and begin to beat yourself up internally.  Your self confidence decreases and your doubt increases like a merry-go-round you spin!

To grow past this behavior we must begin to think of others first and ourselves last.  A sense of humility and an attitude of service to others first is the way off the merry-go-round.  When we put the needs of others ahead of our own we begin to relieve ourselves of the burden of self and we open our lives up to abounding joy.

Life is goooood!

Go, Go, Go…

Dan 🙂